tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post4174637018084436707..comments2023-07-04T09:58:32.905-04:00Comments on My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce: I Got Laid! Now What?Divorced Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01740271601866523220noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-76676174355887994712013-07-05T11:27:05.907-04:002013-07-05T11:27:05.907-04:00Definitely not relationship potential. Good thing ...Definitely not relationship potential. Good thing I wasn't looking for a relationship! ;)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-32938238842743959382013-07-05T11:03:29.060-04:002013-07-05T11:03:29.060-04:00Thanks for the laugh! Congrats!! As long as you ar...Thanks for the laugh! Congrats!! As long as you are in the drivers seat right? You know the old saying - once a cheater always a cheater so pass on him for relationship potential and just stay strong! Men!!???Melanyb12noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-68087909111583094842013-07-04T06:12:02.795-04:002013-07-04T06:12:02.795-04:00Hi you have a Very Nice Blog. . .
How about we fo...Hi you have a Very Nice Blog. . .<br /><br />How about we follow each<br />other? let me know.<br /><br />www.ourjaipur.comOur Jaipurnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-3756107613218444062013-07-02T09:10:42.284-04:002013-07-02T09:10:42.284-04:00How interesting for you and me that we've &quo...How interesting for you and me that we've "met" each other. A difference for Max versus you is that there is no physical pain for him -- it's psychological. But anyway, I left you a comment on your blog. Thinking of you!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-81336611409384293572013-07-02T08:42:50.052-04:002013-07-02T08:42:50.052-04:00Nice guy, but not the person for me to date! Just ...Nice guy, but not the person for me to date! Just the person for a nice roll in the hay. :)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-38300894770404008332013-07-02T01:05:14.389-04:002013-07-02T01:05:14.389-04:00well, good for you! And, he sounds like a bit of a...well, good for you! And, he sounds like a bit of a loser, so good thing you gave him the cold shoulder after that!Roshni Aamomhttp://www.bigaandlittlea.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-70347224082478517642013-07-01T23:32:57.600-04:002013-07-01T23:32:57.600-04:00The sad part is, I'm kind of like Max. I'm...The sad part is, I'm kind of like Max. I'm just not that into sex. I haven't had it for 7 months so far and I'm doing alright. I was living ur relationship, except I was Max. I never wanted sex. It hurt, I didn't like it, it wasn't fun. So my hubby hardly ever got any. That includes other sexual things as well. It may be psychological, it may be physical, it may just be the fact that I wasn't physically attracted to him any longer. Whatever the reason, I'm just hoping that when I meet the right person that sends the sparks flying, I can have sex and it will be enjoyable. fun. Maybe even... GASP, pleasurable. Too much to ask? This is my very first blog post: http://katjaneway.blogspot.com/2012/03/raising-awareness-of-dyspareunia.htmlAmy Gurleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-55575305804022766382013-07-01T21:37:41.189-04:002013-07-01T21:37:41.189-04:00Don't call yourself a prude! The thing is that...Don't call yourself a prude! The thing is that both sides of the couple need to be on the same page. If you both only want sex once a month, fine! If you both want it everyday, fine! It's when there's absolutely no balance that it becomes unfair to both parties (but especially the one with the higher sex drive because we lose by default).<br /><br />If you can't do random hookups, then props to you for not giving in to them. I was desperate for physical contact, and if I weren't careful, I could've ended up mounting anyone with a pulse. But ultimately, I would love to physically AND emotionally intimate with someone... but the emotional side will take awhile.<br /><br /><br /><br />I think the best thing we can do is try our best to stay true to ourselves through the healing process. Fingers crossed we can!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-29476022397815232042013-07-01T21:22:19.767-04:002013-07-01T21:22:19.767-04:00I'm a total prude. Maybe it's because I do...I'm a total prude. Maybe it's because I don't often "itch"? Max and I might be a good pair, honestly! I'm very strange but... I don't think I could do the whole "meaningless sex" or rebound thing. I get attached. I WANT a relationship. I want the whole deal. I can't just... do that and walk away. It's not me. Although, I kind of dated a guy for a month while my divorce was on its 90 day (it still is, technically) and I probably COULD have had sex with him - we were at the tipping point in bed where I could have said "yeah let's do it", but I said no. Because although he was wanting a divorce from his wife (who lived out of the country!), it wasn't 100% certain, and I didn't want to have sex with a man who I might not end up really in a relationship with. I guess I'm just messed up? :-\Amy Gurleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-58120856661027469652013-07-01T21:15:51.898-04:002013-07-01T21:15:51.898-04:00I didn't use a vibrator until after I was divo...I didn't use a vibrator until after I was divorced! I was gathering cobwebs. Terrible.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-32118178256398024752013-07-01T17:55:58.080-04:002013-07-01T17:55:58.080-04:00Oh sweetie, been there lived through that! The fin...Oh sweetie, been there lived through that! The final 3 yrs of my marriage we slept in separate rooms and lived like roommates. My vibrators got lots of action while he got a lot of side action! Meaningless "scratch the itch" sex has it's role.Boston Single Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-35732433876553560032013-07-01T16:22:34.231-04:002013-07-01T16:22:34.231-04:00Of course your pseudo first time was at a wedding!...Of course your pseudo first time was at a wedding! Ha! I had my "kid in a candy store" days... and I'm trying NOT to repeat that!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-10966668273266605302013-07-01T15:07:23.203-04:002013-07-01T15:07:23.203-04:00Because you and I are secretly the same person, my...Because you and I are secretly the same person, my-almost first (long story- there was one before it but it was Bad Idea Theatre) post-divorce experience was also at a wedding. Congrats! Personally, I went a little "kid in a candy store" my 1st year out but I know that's not for everyone ;-)The Redhead Bedheadhttp://www.redheadbedhead.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-42478735537605144342013-07-01T14:31:13.390-04:002013-07-01T14:31:13.390-04:00I know, isn't it terrible?! We basically didn&...I know, isn't it terrible?! We basically didn't have sex the whole time we were married, and not much in the few years prior! I think having the first sex be meaningless is probably a good idea -- like you said, just to scratch the itch. :)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-36444094701269810852013-07-01T14:30:06.288-04:002013-07-01T14:30:06.288-04:00My 26 Year Old and my vibrator have already waaaaa...My 26 Year Old and my vibrator have already waaaaay upped my sex drive. :) I can't believe I used to go so long without. NEVER. AGAIN.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-19606656787742042192013-07-01T13:45:52.071-04:002013-07-01T13:45:52.071-04:00Congrats! The first post divorce sex is always gr...Congrats! The first post divorce sex is always great. The problem is, now that you opened pandoras box your going to be hornier!!! Lol!!! I am so happy you finally got over that hurdle and got it in!confessionsLAnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-77470373105235115692013-07-01T09:06:54.690-04:002013-07-01T09:06:54.690-04:00I'd love to help. I will email you. Thanks for...I'd love to help. I will email you. Thanks for stopping by my blog!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-27510061493912836992013-07-01T08:40:46.208-04:002013-07-01T08:40:46.208-04:00Hi Divorced Kat, Love your blog! I'm writing a...Hi Divorced Kat, Love your blog! I'm writing a book about bridesmaids and I'd love to interview you. Everything can be anonymous and it would just take a quick phone call. Would you be up for it? I can send you details over email if you write me a note: eimearmlynch@gmail.com. Thanks so much!EimearMLynchnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-13179810737561205012013-06-30T19:36:55.420-04:002013-06-30T19:36:55.420-04:00Ewww a kid too... Yikes. Oh well, though, right? I...Ewww a kid too... Yikes. Oh well, though, right? I think as long as we don't keep making those not classy choices, we can give ourselves a pass. We've been through a lot!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-41747519818844321882013-06-30T19:18:46.348-04:002013-06-30T19:18:46.348-04:00My first time post-divorce was with a married guy....My first time post-divorce was with a married guy. I knew he was married when I decided to go home with him (his wife was out of town) but didn't know until I got to his house that he also had a 6 week old kid. Talk about classy moments... :( But yes, I still had sex with him. It wasn't great but it got the job done.honeyinatlnoreply@blogger.com