tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post3292879090858473470..comments2023-07-04T09:58:32.905-04:00Comments on My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce: Keeping Facebook Photos of Your Ex -- Just Documenting the Past or Harming Your Future?Divorced Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01740271601866523220noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-64492149118589636582014-06-24T08:40:15.774-04:002014-06-24T08:40:15.774-04:00You'll do everything in your own time, when yo...You'll do everything in your own time, when you're good and ready!<br />I hope blogging helps you as much as it's helped me. Thanks for reading!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-16939535352396855982014-06-24T02:04:30.326-04:002014-06-24T02:04:30.326-04:00Oh boy...more things to worry about! More complica...Oh boy...more things to worry about! More complicated when you have children and now a new grandchild. I haven't even changed my status yet. I'm such a chicken! I Recently moved to a new (old actually) house. When I packed up the Christmas stuff, wedding and family photos - I managed to not look at them. I marked the boxes "personal" so I'd be able to deal with them when I'm ready. Am I in denial? Whatever it is, it's working. LOL Like you, I started a blog to write through the process. http://www.restoringmylifeandhouse.blogspot.com I think best with a pen in my hand...or in this case...computer in my lap. LOL KarenKaren Alaniznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-68960049876989711742014-02-09T20:04:10.501-05:002014-02-09T20:04:10.501-05:00I guess I won't really know what's the rig...I guess I won't really know what's the right thing until I have that boyfriend. But yeah, there's no way I'd get rid of the photos entirely!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-41603136967375784252014-02-08T05:42:24.163-05:002014-02-08T05:42:24.163-05:00The only reason for making them private now, is so...The only reason for making them private now, is so that future dates/boyfriends don't see them, and then in time, I would remove them completely. I would probably copy them into a file on my computer though, just because it was such a large part of your life. But hey, that's just what I would do :)Michelle Gordonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-82068953275489904352014-02-06T10:36:17.531-05:002014-02-06T10:36:17.531-05:00Thank you for your kind words!Thank you for your kind words!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-50808677785312815352014-02-05T17:18:53.261-05:002014-02-05T17:18:53.261-05:00I am glad that you are holding up so well under al...I am glad that you are holding up so well under all of this. It takes a strong woman/ person to do that. You are a great example to all of us.<br /><br /> http://www.catalystfamilylawyers.com.ausimonadair2323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-87061382881480043552014-01-28T21:42:41.066-05:002014-01-28T21:42:41.066-05:00I accidentally came across a photo of Max and my b...I accidentally came across a photo of Max and my brother at my brother's wedding. Brought tears to my eyes. I remember I used to think of that photo as being one of my two favorite men.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-24148544302374417282014-01-28T11:50:42.500-05:002014-01-28T11:50:42.500-05:00Like others here, I made them private. I don'...Like others here, I made them private. I don't know what it was, something heartbreaking about making those memories disappear forever. 15 months on from separating from my husband I still can't bring myself to look at my Wedding photos, we looked so happy, so many broken dreams!Joannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-39586072540153039802014-01-27T22:44:01.207-05:002014-01-27T22:44:01.207-05:00Ugh there are literally hundreds of photos of Max ...Ugh there are literally hundreds of photos of Max and me... I would practically have to cancel Facebook and start over! I guess it would be more realistic to either delete or make private albums like our wedding photos and honeymoon.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-79263784230332740012014-01-27T22:43:03.123-05:002014-01-27T22:43:03.123-05:00Yes, given the nature of your break up, I can defi...Yes, given the nature of your break up, I can definitely understand not wanting to hold on to the photos. It's a weird world trying to strike a balance with social media and memories.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-81514418863870696582014-01-27T22:38:47.828-05:002014-01-27T22:38:47.828-05:00Maybe I'll end up dating someone with your way...Maybe I'll end up dating someone with your way of thinking and this can all be a moot point. :)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-47907837782005546012014-01-27T22:37:50.160-05:002014-01-27T22:37:50.160-05:00I don't really see the point of private. Isn&#...I don't really see the point of private. Isn't the point of Facebook to share stuff with your chosen friends? You are not the first person to suggest that so I must be missing something with this concept!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-84903148248286847952014-01-27T22:36:16.443-05:002014-01-27T22:36:16.443-05:00I'm still single so it's not super relevan...I'm still single so it's not super relevant for me yet, but who knows when that might change. It's good for me to think about this stuff so I can be sensitive instead of overly practical -- which can be interpreted as insensitive.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-3933857800417845352014-01-27T21:43:30.484-05:002014-01-27T21:43:30.484-05:00I've always gone back and forth about this too...I've always gone back and forth about this too, generally siding with you - it happened so why do I have to delete it? I finally decided to delete pictures of just and me and my ex, but I do have a few left that are group shots. I figured it was a happy medium.Don @ HowYouCanFindLovenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-88549474393282873102014-01-27T11:48:52.105-05:002014-01-27T11:48:52.105-05:00What would the point be to keeping them if they...What would the point be to keeping them if they're private? (Not being a smartass, it's a serious question!)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-10181183928707255822014-01-27T11:09:26.914-05:002014-01-27T11:09:26.914-05:00yeah…that's tempting. i'm generally a '...yeah…that's tempting. i'm generally a 'saver', so i'd be hard pressed to give 'em up. but i'd make 'em private.Linda Roynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-58089670957230148032014-01-27T11:03:50.125-05:002014-01-27T11:03:50.125-05:00I did what Michelle did - I made those photos/albu...I did what Michelle did - I made those photos/albums Private (but I left the innocuous ones that didn't spur feelings out of me when I see them). I haven't gone through his Facebook photos but I'm under the impression that my boyfriend either deleted/untagged or made private the photos of his ex-wife [they're not on good terms]. My ex-husband hurt me rather deeply with his affair and the cowardly way in which he asked for a divorce so I feel pretty justified in untagging/removing any photos of us/him from my Facebook but I did it to protect me and not to protect any future boyfriend or spouse. The ex and I are not friends on Facebook but I no longer have him blocked at least. I don't pursue looking at his profile or photos and I pay attention to what I allow to be seen by public and friends-of-friends.Anna Dollnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-31355802532755530852014-01-27T10:18:25.457-05:002014-01-27T10:18:25.457-05:00I'm on your side with this to some extent. I&#...I'm on your side with this to some extent. I've been with my wife for 18 years or so now, but I still have print pictures of me with a couple of girlfriends from my high school and college days. They're a fun reminder of my previous life. I could see how hundreds of pictures would be a bit much for a new boyfriend to have to deal with though, especially if you're not posting a bunch of the new guy. I've never been the jealous type, so I may be the wrong person to ask...donofalltradesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-36748074918756166562014-01-27T08:56:23.624-05:002014-01-27T08:56:23.624-05:00Not going to lie, sometimes I've looked at old...Not going to lie, sometimes I've looked at old pictures of us looking so happy and I too have felt the sting of tears in my eyes.<br />If I were in your position, I probably would've done the same thing.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-59737592703643713552014-01-27T04:16:34.983-05:002014-01-27T04:16:34.983-05:00I guess I'd just wait and see...maybe he would...I guess I'd just wait and see...maybe he wouldn't have a problem at all with it, and it'd be okay. Or maybe it's time to print and save the photos in a photo album (if that's not done already and you want them), and let your friends know 'new year, new photos.' :) That being said, my hubby has pictures of every girl he ever dated since high school, maybe even before that, lol, in our family albums, and I could care less. :) Thank you for linking to Super Sunday Sync!mail4roseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-84082638812019170762014-01-26T23:03:33.046-05:002014-01-26T23:03:33.046-05:00I personally deleted mine because it was too painf...I personally deleted mine because it was too painful to see us happy together after he walked out on me for another woman and all the lies in between.<br /><br />But since your marriage ended on good terms I see your point on it.Emily Steelenoreply@blogger.com