tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post2540244874306358493..comments2023-07-04T09:58:32.905-04:00Comments on My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce: Dad and the Day My Marriage DiedDivorced Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01740271601866523220noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-55289882291904693512014-06-16T09:38:29.667-04:002014-06-16T09:38:29.667-04:00Thanks so much Jillian! This was a hard one to wri...Thanks so much Jillian! This was a hard one to write but I'm very glad that I documented this moment in my life. And yes, my dad does indeed rock. :)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-54688537145608825462014-06-15T14:38:14.925-04:002014-06-15T14:38:14.925-04:00I've been reading your blog on and off for awh...I've been reading your blog on and off for awhile, but this is the first I've read this particular post. It is so beautifully written. I'm sorry you went through what you did, but thank you for sharing your story. And your dad, TOTALLY rocks!!Jillian @ Baby Doodah!http://www.babydoodah.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-27048892389048505162013-11-13T07:25:56.651-05:002013-11-13T07:25:56.651-05:00We are lucky ladies!We are lucky ladies!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-30627625577102892072013-11-13T07:25:43.627-05:002013-11-13T07:25:43.627-05:00Totally a "Dad move," right? He handled ...Totally a "Dad move," right? He handled me exactly right in that moment.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-13273962392225782872013-11-13T07:25:13.800-05:002013-11-13T07:25:13.800-05:00I'm almost 34 now and I still want my parents ...I'm almost 34 now and I still want my parents to be proud of me! I recognize now how much life experience they have and how many good choices they have clearly made. I can learn a lot from them.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-28699733759840173682013-11-13T07:24:24.849-05:002013-11-13T07:24:24.849-05:00I agree, Greta!I agree, Greta!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-67227203679229135882013-11-13T06:50:53.791-05:002013-11-13T06:50:53.791-05:00Your dad is awesome. He reminds me of mine, who is...Your dad is awesome. He reminds me of mine, who is always so supportive of me.Katie Eurenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-3913973191914940422013-11-12T23:42:41.712-05:002013-11-12T23:42:41.712-05:00Wow, that's an awesome Dad move. Good for him....Wow, that's an awesome Dad move. Good for him. I'm glad he stood up for you when you needed someone to do that and I'm glad you listened.RobinFarrnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-85093157068590646292013-11-12T23:02:38.086-05:002013-11-12T23:02:38.086-05:00Sometimes we need a parents even more when we'...Sometimes we need a parents even more when we're all grown up, right? I find this with my own kids, that now that they are teenagers they seem to need me more than they did when they were little.<br />My father was never there for me and I'm so glad yours is there for you!Kerstin Auerhttp://auercommunication.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-9969589181194560632013-11-12T22:48:50.532-05:002013-11-12T22:48:50.532-05:00Your dad sounds a lot like mine, and that he'l...Your dad sounds a lot like mine, and that he'll do pretty much anything for you. You're lucky to have him (and vice versa).Gretanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-34301220784461881312013-08-05T17:34:39.948-04:002013-08-05T17:34:39.948-04:00I agree. My dad is the shit.I agree. My dad is the shit.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-78104311125231821292013-08-05T17:23:30.104-04:002013-08-05T17:23:30.104-04:00Your Dad rocks! the great thing about men is they...Your Dad rocks! the great thing about men is they can give you straight-forward advice w/o any sugar coating. That is why everyone needs male friends.mike snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-22267007133744232102013-06-19T21:49:07.234-04:002013-06-19T21:49:07.234-04:00Hi Amy. I'm so glad that your parents are supp...Hi Amy. I'm so glad that your parents are supporting you. I can't imagine how people get through such a difficult time without the support of family. It is so hard to face the truth that things are not going to change. I am thinking of you as you slog through this divorce crap. And I'm so happy my story is helping you! (It's also helping me to write about it.)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-37104297894140168552013-06-19T21:19:36.927-04:002013-06-19T21:19:36.927-04:00Hey Kat, I keep forgetting to comment since I can&...Hey Kat, I keep forgetting to comment since I can't do it at work with my dumb old browser. Both my parents are very supportive of me divorcing my husband. They know it's the right thing for me to do, after all the stuff I've been through with his alcoholism. I fought long and hard for a long time to try and help him. Yeah, sometimes I would nag, and sometimes I would completely shut down. Our fights were beyond... normal. But when the lease on our apartment was up and we had to move because he'd lost his job due to his disease and we could no longer afford to live there? When I knew I would be stuck in another one year lease with a man that was refusing to change? I couldn't do it anymore. I needed out. Kat, ever since I found your blog it's been helping me a lot. So thank you!Amy Gurleynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-39845105482013959132013-06-19T08:54:57.586-04:002013-06-19T08:54:57.586-04:00I think dads can be really good for that no-nonsen...I think dads can be really good for that no-nonsense approach when you need it. (I'm usually the one doling out that kind of advice to others. We're experts on everyone else's lives -- just not our own!) Did you try counseling? Did it help?<br />And thank you for following my story!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-85516989470237924982013-06-19T08:53:38.237-04:002013-06-19T08:53:38.237-04:00One of my new favorite quotes is "New beginni...One of my new favorite quotes is "New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings." I know better things are ahead!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-80585884252122997832013-06-18T23:05:47.585-04:002013-06-18T23:05:47.585-04:00Oh, my father is just like that! Even-keeled, calm...Oh, my father is just like that! Even-keeled, calm-in-a-storm type of personality. He's the one I always turn to when I'm done being emotional and crazy and just need help and answers. When I was contemplating leaving my husband 6 months ago, it was my dad that I finally sat down with to figure everything out. He advised me to try counseling before taking such a huge life leap. He reminded me that I would be going from a stay-at-home-mom of a husband with a 6 or 7 figure salary to a single school teacher who would be forced to work to pay for a 2 bedroom apartment. Talk about harsh words! And granted, money is no reason to stay in a marriage, but just the way my father words things and the way he takes out the emotions and just sees a situation in a black and white manner is amazing to me. I find comfort in knowing that he's there when I need those look-in-the-mirror moments. I'm glad you have your parents during this tough first year of divorce. Good luck. I love keeping up with your blog. -www.rocksnosaltmommy.comElizabethhttp://www.RocksNoSaltMommy.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-92169264899202097332013-06-18T21:43:17.692-04:002013-06-18T21:43:17.692-04:00You've got a bloody great father there and I k...You've got a bloody great father there and I know you know it. When I divorced, my father was somewhat diatant and indifferent to the whole shibang.<br /><br /><br />I often tell other divorced friends and people that divorce is frigging tough but, you know what, you are a magical person who just hasn't yet found the right magical partner. And they are out there waiting for YOU!<br /><br /><br />Heal, mend, rid yourself of the previous shitty baggage and prepare yourself for a better journey than you just had. You deserve it and will get it.Martin Cooneyhttp://www.geekandjock.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-76025924414851780752013-06-18T21:22:25.849-04:002013-06-18T21:22:25.849-04:00Oh yes, but luckily I'm moving past anger. I w...Oh yes, but luckily I'm moving past anger. I was less gracious 6-9 months ago!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-56780552321378028612013-06-18T14:44:44.518-04:002013-06-18T14:44:44.518-04:00Well good, you sound a lot healthier than I'm ...Well good, you sound a lot healthier than I'm sure I would be. My initial reaction to rejection is anger, hence the asshole comment. And you're right - not your problem anymore. :)Natalie the Singingfoolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-67193114521866503502013-06-18T14:38:47.049-04:002013-06-18T14:38:47.049-04:00Thanks for reading!
I know it seems odd to defend...Thanks for reading! <br />I know it seems odd to defend my ex, but he really isn't an asshole. He couldn't deal with what was happening to him/us, so his reaction was to do nothing. Not that it was right, but it was not mean-spirited. More than anything, I feel sad for him that he cannot face his own emotions. But hey, not my problem anymore...Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-20548207782217371462013-06-18T14:09:14.868-04:002013-06-18T14:09:14.868-04:00Your dad is wise. The dude sounds like a royal ass...Your dad is wise. The dude sounds like a royal asshole (pardon me for my bluntness). I'm rooting for you!Natalie the Singingfoolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-37581925912336980042013-06-17T22:29:40.195-04:002013-06-17T22:29:40.195-04:00Thanks Roshni. I was and am so fortunate that my f...Thanks Roshni. I was and am so fortunate that my family has supported me through the entire process.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-23236815678755983502013-06-17T22:17:14.206-04:002013-06-17T22:17:14.206-04:00This is certainly a heartbreaking post, but also a...This is certainly a heartbreaking post, but also a wonderful one of how your father unquestioningly supported you, as all great dads would! Loved it!Roshni Aamomhttp://www.bigaandlittlea.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-91604288442930895882013-06-17T14:21:21.729-04:002013-06-17T14:21:21.729-04:00There's that Dad Tough Love that we need somet...There's that Dad Tough Love that we need sometimes! I hope you're doing well too.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.com