tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post2089399524368462399..comments2023-07-04T09:58:32.905-04:00Comments on My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce: How to Dump Someone You Aren’t Really DatingDivorced Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01740271601866523220noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-55987637165617325172014-01-21T22:18:52.691-05:002014-01-21T22:18:52.691-05:00Good point. In these cases, the guys did actually ...Good point. In these cases, the guys did actually ask me out again and I had to say no. I couldn't believe I had to say it!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-47274777985129604672014-01-21T12:36:08.712-05:002014-01-21T12:36:08.712-05:00If you are not in a relatioship, you are not "...If you are not in a relatioship, you are not "dumping" or "breaking up". You are simply turning someone down for a date. No need to call and say you wont be seeing them again unless THEY call and ask. If I went out with a guy a handful of times and he called to say he wont be seeing me again, I'd think it was pretty weird.CJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-6871984332895045472014-01-20T12:09:14.808-05:002014-01-20T12:09:14.808-05:00Why waste anyone's time if it's not there....Why waste anyone's time if it's not there. I'm working on being secure enough that I can let a guy go -- even if he's interested in me -- because I know in my heart it's not right.<br />No rush to get back to this craziness of dating! I'm hanging in until the end of January and then taking a break if I haven't met anyone cool.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-66585712906485543642014-01-20T12:07:02.119-05:002014-01-20T12:07:02.119-05:00Wow, that is CRAZY. I'm so glad you found me! ...Wow, that is CRAZY. I'm so glad you found me! Please follow me on Twitter so we can chat!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-31742102250429783462014-01-18T23:03:54.577-05:002014-01-18T23:03:54.577-05:00I completely feel your pain, Kat! I have become a ...I completely feel your pain, Kat! I have become a real hard ass since I've gotten divorced and having my son. If there's no connection, I just say "It was nice meeting you...but I gotta go." And I just walk away. Dating is a real pain lol. I've held off for the moment, but I knew I'll eventually have to get back into the game. Wishing you the best!<br /><br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing on Turn It Up Tuesday! We love having you! :)Natasha Peternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-32307279504997404842014-01-17T16:22:34.169-05:002014-01-17T16:22:34.169-05:00OMG. Just found your blog today. Are you me?? Seri...OMG. Just found your blog today. Are you me?? Seriously. <br />I'm 34, got divorced this past October (I was 33)- no kids, married for 11 years to a guy I've known since college. Same marriage problems- lack of passion/sex, crying in my bed at night... blah blah... I was a total good girl, blah blah. <br /><br />I now live in my own 1 bedroom apartment, and have had more great sex than ever before in my life. Also, I've learned to smoke a bowl without coughing my lungs up. I drink, I party, my friends are worried about me - but you know what? I'm having fun!!! I need this!! <br /><br />And yes, I'm doing the online dating thing too. (Have you heard of Tinder?? If not, google it, now.) <br /><br />I've also experienced kissing 2 guys in the same night and laughing about it to myself, having multiple dates in a week, dating a guy younger than me who is SO not my type but I can't help myself, and also doing the awkward breakup stuff. I feel like I could've written exactly what you wrote- right down to my dad, taking me to the divorce lawyer the first time- telling me he was proud of me. <br /><br />Keep rockin it girl. You've given me a little hope that I am actually not crazy.Judesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-45200668826851665372014-01-15T09:47:22.555-05:002014-01-15T09:47:22.555-05:00Thanks Lisa! It seems like part of the key is to s...Thanks Lisa! It seems like part of the key is to stop talking. Say "nice to meet you" and then peace out.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-17952796046799372452014-01-15T09:46:27.854-05:002014-01-15T09:46:27.854-05:00YES, the awkward goodbye! Hate those. I think they...YES, the awkward goodbye! Hate those. I think they're only awkward when I'm either meh or NO WAY about the guy. <br />I agree, I think you know pretty quickly if the person has any chance for another date.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-40496657283944916582014-01-15T09:45:29.868-05:002014-01-15T09:45:29.868-05:00Thanks Mimi! Dating can be lovely and nutty.Thanks Mimi! Dating can be lovely and nutty.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-40180177361481942612014-01-15T09:45:04.738-05:002014-01-15T09:45:04.738-05:00I know, we don't want to be rude, but at the s...I know, we don't want to be rude, but at the same, isn't it more rude to pretend you want to be with someone when you don't?Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-82246188311481066172014-01-14T23:51:49.529-05:002014-01-14T23:51:49.529-05:00I totally get what you mean about not feeling it! ...I totally get what you mean about not feeling it! I dated a few guys just to be 'nice' and it was just a waste of both our time! <br />So glad you found your just-right guy!Roshni Aamomhttp://www.bigaandlittlea.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-54406417055301256742014-01-14T21:40:56.826-05:002014-01-14T21:40:56.826-05:00I haven't been on the dating scene in a long t...I haven't been on the dating scene in a long time. I imagine I would have a similar experience if I tried to get back out there. I love your humor about it.Mimi Greennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-7907482919458443292014-01-14T17:50:06.456-05:002014-01-14T17:50:06.456-05:00OMG! I know exactly how you feel. I did a dating ...OMG! I know exactly how you feel. I did a dating service years ago when I was single and I met so many guys that I knew almost immediately it wouldn't work, and then I stayed the rest of the date just to be polite.<br /><br /><br />My biggest advice is not to do that. If you know it's not going anywhere, don't waste your time or his. Say it's been nice meeting you and then get out of there. He'll probably thank you for it.<br /><br />I also used to use your "It's been nice meeting you" line and not saying anything else. It works!<br /><br /><br />Good luck. The right guy is out there for you. If I could find mine, and I'm a complete disaster, then you can find yours. You have a very positive attitude, which makes all the difference. :0)Lisa Newlinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-69849010698823080732014-01-14T16:56:22.485-05:002014-01-14T16:56:22.485-05:00Ah, online dating... I remember well that awkward ...Ah, online dating... I remember well that awkward goodbye at the end. I always felt like I knew pretty early on whether I wanted a second date and if I wasn't feeling it I'd just relax and be as weird as comes naturally and then know that neither of us would be broken hearted to never ever speak again.HackerNinjaHookerSpyhttp://www.aussalorens.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-45600397555691484582014-01-14T16:34:35.986-05:002014-01-14T16:34:35.986-05:00We're all out here trying, so no need to be me...We're all out here trying, so no need to be mean to anyone. Well, unless he REALLY deserves it. ;)Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-62813815045286763072014-01-14T15:15:50.302-05:002014-01-14T15:15:50.302-05:00I like that you're polite, even when deliverin...I like that you're polite, even when delivering bad news. There's a lot to be said for consideration of other people's feelings!mail4roseynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-78391596632839739832014-01-14T13:17:39.385-05:002014-01-14T13:17:39.385-05:00He will appear when he is supposed to, whatever th...He will appear when he is supposed to, whatever that may end up meaning! :) Thanks for following along!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-26793425933808552182014-01-14T12:39:37.713-05:002014-01-14T12:39:37.713-05:00This makes me glad I am married! LOL Yeesh. Totall...This makes me glad I am married! LOL Yeesh. Totally forgot how crazy the dating scene is. <br /><br /><br />My best breakup tip? Umm...hmm. Tell them you're really gay. Or you're joining a convent. And then, don't answer their calls or texts ever again. What?! I've been out of the game for four years. I know nothing anymore.Kimhttp://www.kimulmanis.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-57546999391744058462014-01-14T08:28:30.161-05:002014-01-14T08:28:30.161-05:007 dates in 9 days?? you go girl!
Way back, i was ...7 dates in 9 days?? you go girl!<br /><br />Way back, i was on the fence about a guy I SO WANTED to like, he was a fireman (I LOVE firemen!) it just wasn't there. He asked me on a 3rd date & i gave the "thanks... you're really sweet, it was nice meeting you--but I just don't think we're a match." He responded with: "So i guess a blowjob is out of the question?" Totally re-affirmed my feeling the guy was an ass-clown. <br /><br />There is a right & wrong way to break-up with someone, I always tried to be respectful but found most guys were total pus--, sorry, chickens about it.livloveblognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-54420385805774684562014-01-14T08:21:22.774-05:002014-01-14T08:21:22.774-05:00I admire your plan, Kat. You are taking dating ser...I admire your plan, Kat. You are taking dating seriously and will find the right guy. I'll probably be a little disappointed since I love your dating stories. :)Jennifer Stecknoreply@blogger.com