tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post1073999925142014557..comments2023-07-04T09:58:32.905-04:00Comments on My Tales of Life and Love After Divorce: “For what it’s worth, I think we could’ve been a cool couple.”Divorced Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01740271601866523220noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-74817583431900003762015-03-25T09:07:43.908-04:002015-03-25T09:07:43.908-04:00I'm so glad you found my blog!
I think you are...I'm so glad you found my blog!<br />I think you are very right about the friends thing. I mean, I get not introducing the person to your friends immediately -- but you should be hiding each other either. I'm definitely going to keep my eyes open about this going forward.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-18967840604221933452015-03-11T13:55:59.989-04:002015-03-11T13:55:59.989-04:00Hi Kat. I just found your blog and I can relate on...Hi Kat. I just found your blog and I can relate on so many levels. Thanks for sharing your stories with us! I'm three years out of a 10 year relationship with an emotionally unavailable man. I'm doing the dating thing and I totally agree about how hard (and frustrating!) that awkward gap period is between newly dating and in a relationship.<br /><br />Reading this post, there was a red flag that I've only recently discovered myself -- the guy who loves meeting and doing things with your friends but doesn't introduce you to his. Something's not right when this is going on. I recently dated a guy for a few months who was like this and I even pointed it out to him a couple of months in and he apologized and said he didn't know why that was the case but he would fix it and include me in his life (he never did). It's just shady. Either he's hiding something or he's not into you enough for you to be a part of his life. I'll know better going forward...<br /><br />Live and learn! I'm sorry that this guy wasn't the right one, but better to know now than later. We both can attest to that. :)LA_graphics_girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-68171698578767036082015-02-12T20:06:49.051-05:002015-02-12T20:06:49.051-05:00Keep telling yourself. One door closes so another...Keep telling yourself. One door closes so another one can open. Live by Surprisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-37643383220546092672015-02-12T09:11:20.692-05:002015-02-12T09:11:20.692-05:00Thanks Persephone. It is very important to me to a...Thanks Persephone. It is very important to me to act in a way so that I'm at peace with my own actions. (Though it's sometimes easier said than done!) I did my best to stick up for myself while trying to keep an open heart and mind.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-6100238796002036562015-02-12T09:10:14.312-05:002015-02-12T09:10:14.312-05:00DISAPPOINTING!DISAPPOINTING!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-44270219721323337772015-02-12T09:10:00.065-05:002015-02-12T09:10:00.065-05:00I do wonder if he'll regret it, but maybe not,...I do wonder if he'll regret it, but maybe not, given how long he's been comfortably single. I try to keep telling myself it's his loss... though I am still rather bummed about it.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-71925065403839493472015-02-12T09:09:15.818-05:002015-02-12T09:09:15.818-05:00I know, I wish he had been willing to just roll wi...I know, I wish he had been willing to just roll with things and see what happens, but apparently it wasn't in the cards for us. What can you do though?Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-39540147977812422872015-02-12T09:08:10.754-05:002015-02-12T09:08:10.754-05:00Hi Tara -- Yes, I very much appreciate how honest ...Hi Tara -- Yes, I very much appreciate how honest we were with each other. It's the way stuff like this SHOULD be done. Thanks so much for your kind words!Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-1083124857759426822015-02-12T09:05:20.024-05:002015-02-12T09:05:20.024-05:00Let's all run and hide from the emotionally un...Let's all run and hide from the emotionally unavailable. I was married to one of them already!! I'm doing much better now that I let a few tears slide.Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-35886354563948026862015-02-12T09:04:35.212-05:002015-02-12T09:04:35.212-05:00I'm sorry you had to go through that! Lessons ...I'm sorry you had to go through that! Lessons learned all around, right?Divorced Katnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-27895392047888292822015-02-08T17:11:29.751-05:002015-02-08T17:11:29.751-05:00That is sad. But totally his loss hon. I feel ba...That is sad. But totally his loss hon. I feel bad for him - sounds like he may need some therapy to figure out why he's sabotaging himself. He'll be kicking himself over missed opportunities...Live by Surprisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-61813561947111057502015-02-04T17:42:54.830-05:002015-02-04T17:42:54.830-05:00I'm a little saddened by your story just becau...I'm a little saddened by your story just because isn't it easier to relax, take things as they come and if they don't turn the way you are thinking, pull the pin. Maybe he had in his head all along that you were not the right one (not sure why but just a thought). Maybe he is scared of any form of commitment.Natalie @ Our Parallel Connectnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-63295387438794344372015-02-04T16:49:56.682-05:002015-02-04T16:49:56.682-05:00While I'm a bit jaded by men and the things th...While I'm a bit jaded by men and the things they say before ending a relationship, I'm also, I think, inexperienced in the manner. But, I find it kind of nice how truthful he was with you and how he did what he could to make it as pain free as possible. I'm more so impressed with how you handled yourself and had come to the conclusion of who you are and how you love. I feel that if he had tried to set some limitations to your relationship in the hopes of trying to make it work, you would not have accepted it and you never should. Keep living and loving as you are and the right person, the right circumstance will come your way.Tara Dunn McCollumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-46519796117613406742015-02-04T16:26:56.328-05:002015-02-04T16:26:56.328-05:00I married and had a kid with a woman who never sho...I married and had a kid with a woman who never showed me her true side. She divorced me without even discussing it. Then tried to keep me from seeing my son. You are so much better off finding out that he is not emotionally available now as opposed to later!<br />But yes, go ahead and cry, because it sucks that it didn't work out :(mike snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1883263011548393946.post-82310116321133668152015-02-04T15:16:40.023-05:002015-02-04T15:16:40.023-05:00My last break-up was so much like this! Only we we...My last break-up was so much like this! Only we were together for 6 months, he met my kids and I was 100% blindsided when he told me he was moving away...for no reason. Looking back, I should have seen the warning signs. All of his girlfriends had been long distance, at 32 he had never lived with anyone, or been engaged, no kids, moving ever 3-4 years. I commend you for seeing the signs and addressing them early on. Trust me, you saved yourself SO much heartache!Regina Careynoreply@blogger.com